When I make a promise to another person, I do my best to keep it. When I make a promise to myself, I tend to default. I’ve learned this about myself through the years and as a way to compensate I ask other people to help me keep my promises.
I made one of these infant socks a few years ago. The sock turned up when I was going through my works in progress. I’m going to finish it this week, I promised myself. It didn’t happen. The promise I made myself seemed insignificant. Why should I bother keeping some inconsequential promise to myself? Because breaking promises can become a habit. I found myself figuring out ways to excuse my lack of follow-through.
If I decide to make a promise to myself today, I make it public. I don’t necessarily tell everyone but I tell enough people to make myself accountable. I told my daughter-in-law, I knit a pair of socks for Theo and I’ll bring them over next week. The second sock got done.
If I commit to writing a blog post every day on the Advent Word of the day, then I do it because I made a commitment to you. Each day during Advent, I commit to writing a post using the Advent Word of the day as a prompt. The first word was “Promise”. Come back each day to see the new post and an Advent knitting update!
I do want to be able to keep a promise that I just make to myself. I think it’s an important way of showing respect. I’m working up to it. In the meantime, thank you for keeping me at the computer writing.